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Who has the most casual sex?

admin — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 10:26:25 +0000

Dream girl waiting for casual sex partner:

The question which is always interesting is who has the most casual sex? The most sexually active among us are not necessarily single, barhopping types. In fact, data collected at the University of Chicago on the habits of 10,000 adults revealed just the opposite: Women who have the most sex tend to be 18 to 34-year-olds who are married with children, have at least some college education and work a harrowing 60 or more hours a week.

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They are also likely to hold liberal political views, to not have a graduate or professional degree (in fact, people with the highest level of education tend to have less sex), to be socially active, to not be especially religious and to love jazz. (Jazz fans, it turns out, have 30 percent more sex than people who prefer other types of music.)

Girl ready for fun and casual sex:

Like wealth, sex is not equally distributed among the population either: Just 15 percent of adults account for half of all sexual activity, and 42 percent have 85 percent of all sex. Only 5 percent of Americans have sex three or more times a week. Adults ages 18 to 34 average close to two sexual encounters a week; 35- to 40-year-olds log in at slightly more than once a week; and a whopping one in five adults say they haven’t had sex at all during the previous year. Of course, more sex doesn’t necessarily mean better sex, though people who make love frequently just might be in a better mood than the rest of us. The researchers found that the more often a person has sex, the more likely they are to describe their life and marriage as happy.

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Casual Sex meeting – Is a phone call mandatory, and how should you handle it?

admin — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 10:21:38 +0000

Q: Is a phone call mandatory, and how should you handle it?

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A: “It’s completely different,” says our expert, “talking for real, hearing the other person’s voice. You can tell a lot about someone from talking to them on the phone.” The phone call makes the whole affair more (ahem) personal, closing the emotional distance, and allowing a sneak preview of what’s to come. In fact, Andrea declined a date with one guy after a brief phone conversation. “But, then again, I was already seeing Chris, so…” Sure, but he also could have knocked her socks off, or at least come off as interesting.

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The phone call will often help screen out the obviously lame.

More benefits of safe sex

admin — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:17:40 +0000

A growing number of couples are heeding the message that condoms help prevent the spread of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases — a shift that’s paying off in more ways than one: Between 1997 and 2008, unintended pregnancies dropped 16 percent and the abortion rate dropped 11 percent, according to a study by the Alan Guttmacher Institute. The biggest jump in condom use occurred among women in their twenties; about 23 percent now use them, up from about only 14 percent in 1998. (Among 15- to 19-year-olds, 30 percent use condoms, compared with 27 percent in 1988.)

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Another reason for the downturn in unwanted pregnancies and abortions may be that younger women — who are more apt to err with contraception — are beginning to turn to more goof-proof methods such as injectables (Depo-Provera) and hormonal implants (Norplant). Ten percent of 15 to 24-year-olds now rely on these new forms of birth control.

Still, nearly half of all pregnancies in this country are accidents; every night, approximately 1.6 million American couples who don’t want to conceive risk an unwanted pregnancy by foregoing contraception or relying on a method with a high failure rate, such as withdrawal or spermicides.

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More startling facts:
48 percent of women ages 15 to 44 have had at least one unplanned pregnancy.
28 percent have had one or more unwanted births.
30 percent have had one or more abortions.
11 percent have had one or more unwanted births and one or more abortions.
At current rates, 43 percent of American women will have had an abortion by age 45.

Notes study author Stanley K. Henshaw, Ph.D.: “We need to improve access to birth control and dispel the myth that the IUD and hormonal contraceptives are unhealthy. We also need to make people more aware of emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex.”

He hasn’t tried to do more than kiss

admin — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:14:14 +0000

Q: I’ve been seeing this guy for two months and he hasn’t tried to do more than kiss. All my other relationships moved faster, but I still can’t help wondering: Is it him, or is it me? –G.T., 25

Couple French kissing:

A: As long as you haven’t sent the message that all you want is kissing, it’s definitely him. Why is he holding back? According to my friend Tim, “He doesn’t want to get serious, or he can’t admit that he just wants to be friends.” Another friend, Matt, says, “Could be a religious nut.” My boyfriend Gregg says, “He’s probably nervous. He might be intimidated by her sexual experience and he’s afraid to disappoint her.” One final theory, from my buddy Bob: “Isn’t it obvious? The guy’s gay.”

Or he’s afraid of disease. Pregnancy. Being hurt. He’s seeing someone else. He’s impotent. A virgin. The possibilities are endless. Without more clues, it’s hard to say why he’s holding back; you’ll have to go on a fact-finding mission. Tim suggests the direct approach: Ask, “Do you like me?” Or, you can follow Mark’s advice and make the first move. “If you lunge at him,” he says, “he’ll have some explaining to do if he doesn’t respond.”

52 Dates in one month – The Veridict

admin — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:10:15 +0000

First read our previous post about 52 Dates in one month with CasualSexMates.com, then read the following…

Ben’s Verdicts: See which girl inspired which dating tip by selecting the comment.

Sexy Casual Sex Mates members, babe in lingerie:

Week 1

1. Don’t be a bitter pill or complain.
2. Guys want women who don’t act like guys.
3. Confirm your date.
4. Sometimes youdon’t blow a date — he does.
5. People don’t always click — don’t worry.
6. Don’t be too needy.
7. Too many jokes, not enough passion.
8. Don’t push the first date into romance too soon.
9. Tiny girls are off-putting to some guys.
10. Sometimes a girl really is too young to date.
11. Bleating cries for sympathy are not sexy.
12. Perfume is okay, too much perfume is not.
13. Talk about a range of subjects, not just your job.
14. Pushy girls lack sex appeal.
15. Bad laugh, is a no go.

Week 2

16. TV addiction is not sexy.
17. Plastic surgery addiction is a turn-off.
18. Don’t date if you are depressed.
19. Don’t date just for a free meal.
20. When writing a personal ad, stick to your true personality.
21. Sometimes things do work out.
22. Sassy is fun!
23. Ben says “Too much girl for this guy.”
24. Brash and caustic do not a date make.
25. Beauty is sometimes only beauty.

Couple kissing passionately:

Week 3

26. Let your date get a word in edgewise.
27. Going dutch is a turn-off.
28. Brats are bad.
29. Big biceps are bad.
30. Not believing in oral sex is a no-no.
31. Don’t be too gruff.
32. Don’t be so frosty.
33. Sometimes your date has other things on his/her mind.
34. Show how smart you really are.
35. Hard to get is SEXY.
36. Lonely girls are frightening.

Week 4

37. Too sexy means never meeting Mom.
38. Health nuts seem nuts.
39. Be honest if you really like the person.
40. See 39
41. See 39
42. Grooming counts.
43. Cutesy catchwords are a turn-off.
44. Curfews are childish.
45. Men can’t handle strong women.
46. Don’t let siblings or parents set you up.
47. Be more than a smile.
48. Too hip is not too sexy.
49. Can’t have it if you want it too much.
50. Homeless pets are not romantic.
51. Look relaxed and happy to be there.
52. Don’t try too hard.

Casual Sex Personals growing so popular

admin — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 19:54:02 +0000

The times really are changing — faster than you can e-mail a dirty joke, you can find love on the net. That’s right, you. Not some random, perverted, mealy-mouthed console cowboy, or any other mythical Internet freak for that matter. You; normal, healthy, socially adept you, can find your online match. It happens all the time, as we can attest. And as online personals grow more popular, certain things have become clear. The number of personals users is steadily growing, and the online demographic is showing itself to be increasingly diverse. As the novelty wears off, rules are developing. There is an etiquette to online romance, and to illustrate this burgeoning tradition we now introduce one couple and their esteemed advice. “What makes this couple so special?” you might be asking. Well, Chris and Andrea have gone from trading e-mail to trading marriage vows, and Casualsexmates.com, for one, couldn’t be prouder.

Casual Sex Personals, sample couple:

We interviewed Chris and Andrea at their NYC apartment just a few weeks before the wedding. Chris is a Software Developer and an actor, and Andrea sells her artwork
,and other rare finds, over the Internet. One year after meeting through Casualsexmates.com, this lucky couple is proving that online romance works, and works well.

Casual Sex Personals, lesbian couple:

We are so proud that we have helped them to meet and have a nice life together…!

I was curious about what it would be like to be tied up

admin — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 19:50:18 +0000

Q: I was curious about what it would be like to be tied up. What do you think?

Curious to be tied-up:

A: A conflict of taste can create “a negative sexual history,” says Joel Block, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Secrets of Better Sex (Parker, 1996). Your boyfriend’s pushing will make you feel guilt, resentment, anger — emotions that are not conducive to good sex — and your lovely, experimental boink life could dry up and disappear. One tactic: talk. What did he love about bondage? What did you hate? Are there modifications (establishing a code word that means “stop” or using easy-off Velcro straps) that would be mutually enjoyable? “It’d be a shame to lose your sense of sexual adventure because one thing didn’t work out,” says Doc Block. So keep experimenting. And ask him to back down about bondage: Unwanted pressure from him will definitely erode trust and intimacy.

Sexy curious babe:

Am I a lesbian?

admin — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 19:43:36 +0000

Q: AM I A LESBIAN?
Lately, I’ve only been able to have an orgasm if I think about women while my boyfriend and I have sex. How can I get my fantasies back on track?
R.V., 27

Am I a lesbian?

A: DEAR R.V.
Well, you’re not a lesbian. Probably. That’s what Linda Banner, Ph.D., of the University of California, San Francisco-Stanford Sexual Health and Medicine Program tells me. “Eighty percent of my patients who come in with this issue are 26 to 30. That’s a time of heightened anxiety, when people are supposed to be producing at work and finding life mates,” says Dr. Banner. “Because of the stress, people in this age group are more open to exploring questions about gender preferences. Her mind is considering the possibilities. That’s totally normal.”

Of those women in her practice who questioned their orientation, Dr. Banner says only a small percentage turned out to be gay. So ask yourself this: Do you want to act on your fantasies? Doesn’t sound like it. In which case, Dr. Banner suggests that you conjure up a couple of your finest sexual memories with men to force fantasies of women aside. Or, do as I do: Throw a few men into the mental mix, and invite the whole party to play.

52 Dates In One Month with Casual Sex with CasualSexMates

admin — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 21:25:57 +0000

What’s he really thinking on that first date? And what makes him call you for a second — or get serious? Ben Kaplan crammed a lifetime’s worth of dates into just 30 days — and lived to tell (all) about it.

Read all the juicy details:
Week 1: Dates 1-14
Week 2: Dates 15-25
Week 3: Dates 26-36
Week 4: Dates 37-52

WEEK 1

Day 1
Maggie, 7:20 a.m. Starts complaining seconds after she walks through the diner’s door (yawning, late). Looks good: Jamaican, tucked teasingly into a tight baby tee. But moans about her job the way she moans about her meal: “Uh, hello! I ordered these eggs fried…” Everything a struggle. Everyone else to blame. Verdict: Bitter pill.

52 Dates – hot casual sex babes:

Becca, 7:35 p.m. An up-talker (“Hi, I’m Becca, right?”). At first her giggly indecisiveness is cute — she defers to my wisdom about pizza toppings — but she turns out to be rather — macho. High-fives me good-night. Verdict: Guys don’t want women who act like guys.

Day 2
Alissia, 12:37 p.m. I fail to confirm our date via e-mail, voice mail, carrier pigeon… but still trek to the bar where we’re meeting. Or not. Verdict: Bitch.

Julia, 7:14 p.m. Speaks four languages, looks like Elizabeth Hurley (real English accent — a novelty and a turn-on). We cram into a poetry reading, and I’m grooving on her because she’s just being herself. At a bar later, she buys a round (bonus points!). I’m on the best date I can remember. Then I begin trying too hard. Verdict: Sometimes you don’t blow a date — he does.

Day 3
Megan,1:35 p.m. I’m relaxed. Megan wears a poufy pink sweater, no makeup and isn’t attractive. And the straw in her Diet Coke keeps hitting her upper cheek. Verdict: Next!

52 Dates – hot casual sex girls:

Gwen, 8:52 p.m. Barges in louder than rush hour. Pixie short, rumpled bleached hair, navel ring. “I’ve needed this drink all day,” she belches. Tell her I want to go home and have a facial. We establish that I’m not gay, go to my apartment. I put on D’Angelo. I would never try to seduce a girl I really liked on a first date — I’d have too much respect for her. Try slipping Gwen into bed, but she keeps asking questions. Foreplay fizzles. End up asleep in sweatpants. Verdict: Too needy.

Day 4
Amy, 9:33 p.m. A gorgeous friend of my sister’s roommate; her bra protrudes through her tight yellow shirt. Her Joan Rivers-esque barrage of imitations and witty retorts makes my head spin. Keep staring at the outline of that bra. Imperfection like this is a turn-on; shows vulnerability. She wants me to meet her friends. The night devolves into marathon cell-phone planning — suicide for a first date. Verdict: Too many jokes, not enough passion.

Day 5
Samantha, 12:35 p.m. I like Samantha, a brown-eyed Colombian knockout who works at MTV, because foreign women don’t seem to have as many issues, and they appear more lighthearted. We explore the seaport like kids on a field trip; she buys a funny straw hat; I wear it all afternoon. But she keeps subtly pushing us into romance. Verdict: Manipulative yet hot…worth a second shot.

52 Dates – hot casual sex:

Kathleen, 5:07 p.m. She’s as cute as Tinkerbell; she’s also, unfortunately, only as big. Tiny, tiny girls make you feel like you’re dating your eight-year-old niece. Verdict: High heels needed!

Nikki, 8:05 p.m. Met her at our subway stop when she came up and asked if I was at a recital Friday. Doesn’t know I’ve been studying her for weeks on the Q train, scribbling notes in my journal (“Tuesday. Sat on her umbrella”) because she was shy and mysterious, a sexy mix. Everything is perfect until I ask her age. “Does it bother you that I’m 18?” she asks. Verdict: If I were 19 or 49, no. At 26, yes, it does.

Day 6
Marcy, 7:59 a.m. She’s hating Economics 201, has a runny nose. My hand holds my head up as she talks somewhere over it. Verdict: Bleating cries for sympathy induce sleep.

Erica, 8:23 p.m. I don’t mind perfume, unless it wraps around you like a gaggingly musky floral sleeping bag. Verdict: Need urgent nose fumigation!

Day 7
Jenny, 7:28 a.m. Met her through work. Everything about her is gray. Over coffee, she ignores me, keeps pitching her company. Ironically, I feel like I’m being used. Verdict: Business and pleasure don’t mix after all.

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Tamara, 8:20 p.m. She’s bohemian chic, all flowing dress, necklaces, rings. Tells me she’s nervous, which is good: First, I know that she cares; second, it opens a door for self-disclosure. We kiss all night. But she emasculates me by coming on too strong. Verdict: Pushy girls lack sex appeal.

WEEK 2

Days 8-10
Bad stretch. A southern belle with a hyena giggle. Then, in sad succession: an Ally McBeal addict, a plastic-surgery addict, a pill-popping manic depressive and a user simply looking for a guy to pick up the check.

Day 11
Beth, 1:15 p.m. Woo-hoo! E-mail in my Yahoo! personals mailbox: “I have many bad thoughts. I think all the time about making love. I think about having sex anywhere and everywhere.” But when I meet her for lunch, her only bad thought seems directed at her sandwich (“It’s soggy!”). Verdict: Liar.

Katie, 6:40 p.m. When we meet on the street, she talks for 20 straight minutes about her mean boss who made her cry and her very long day. Yet she’s funny, wise and wonderful — a composite of every character on Friends. Because of this, mannerisms I usually deplore are somehow irresistible on her: can’t use chopsticks, doesn’t like seafood, rambles on a mile a minute. After I lure her to a fancy Asian restaurant, we don’t even look at our menus for almost two hours — talking, smiling, laughing. I’m thinking she could be The One. She’s a dead ringer for cutie Katie Holmes. At her door, I kiss her cheek and feel 16 when I blurt out, “You are just too adorable.” Inside, she probably has photo albums of her vacations in Cancun and a refrigerator stocked with those miniature carrots. Verdict: The real deal…I’m shaking.

Day 12
Erica II, 7 p.m. At the Gap. “You should get a blue shirt with those eyes,” she tells me, and of course I do. Erica has big gold hoop earrings, Timberlands and her hair in intricate braids. I ask if she has time for a break. “Why should I spend it with you?” she challenges, and I smile, because I like a girl with just a little sass. I say, “Because I’ll wear my new shirt for you.” And then we’re drinking latte. Verdict: If only I hadn’t met Katie…

Shira, 7:34 p.m. “Call me any time. It’s not like I’m not doing anything. Ever.” Shira weighs 300 pounds. But, oh…forget it, she’s 300 pounds. Verdict: Too much girl for this much guy.

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Day 13
Marnie, 11:45 a.m. Another Joan Rivers. Funny women: sexy. Braying, caustic women: not. Verdict: Sigh.

Day 14
Dabney, 6 p.m. At the gym, I hold the door for Dabney. She’s toned and — as I discover on a very spontaneous date involving limos and bulls (I swear) — fun in a spacy sort of way. She’s the girl I’d like to be photographed with at the Oscars — but I think she’d leave me for the winner if I lost. Verdict: A guy can tell when beauty is only skin deep.

WEEK 3

Day 15
Barb, 11 a.m. “Blah, blah, blah, blah.” Verdict: Let me get a word in!

Day 16
Lily, 12 p.m. After 26 dates, Lily is the first girl who offers to split the check, and that’s cool. She drinks raspberry vodka and the straw keeps hitting her cheek. (Note to women: Remove your straws.) Verdict: Going dutch is a turn-on. Cheek-hitting straws? Turnoff!

3:08 p.m.-1:17 a.m. Three more girls, three more strikes. One reminds me of the blonde brat from Little House on the Prairie. Then a weightlifter with bigger biceps than me (bad); the last doesn’t believe in oral sex (worse).

Day 17
Tatiana, 12:45 p.m. She works in a school in Yonkers and has that Sopranos look: stonewashed jeans, brown hair, big, manly build. I order the combo platter and she bellows, “You go, boy!” Verdict: Check, please!

Ciji, 6:52 p.m. There is no sweeter gesture on a date than when a woman reaches into a big bag of popcorn on your lap: so simple, so romantic. But that’s about as romantic as tall, elegant Ciji gets. The rest of the time she’s as frosty as a Frigidaire. Verdict: Brrr!

52 Dates – hot casual sex scenes with exotic blonde:

Day 18
Jordan, 6:54 p.m. She licks the top of her Corona, and her tongue is elephantine. My mind drifts to Katie, who is suspicious because I’m always vague and never at home. Verdict: Ugh.

Day 19
Carla, 12:57 p.m. Talking to Carla is like reading an issue of The National Enquirer. I leave feeling dumber than when I arrived. Verdict: Lobotomy.

Day 20
Brittany, 1:17 p.m. She gives me the first slice of our pizza. Nice gestures are important. Still, nothing is ringing my chimes, until she mentions that she sort of has a boyfriend. Now I’m interested! Verdict: Hard to get = sexy.

Day 21
Sonya, 7:25 p.m. I was suspicious when Sonya recommended we meet at Rite Aid. When she approaches in a black leather jacket with chains, I become scared. Beneath the rim of her Stetson are the two most chapped lips I’ve ever seen in my life. At a diner, she drinks her coffee with a spoon. Verdict: Lonely girls are frightening.

WEEK 4

Day 22
JoAnna, 12:36 a.m. I’m at a club, making out with a wasted redhead I’d met on the street only hours ago. JoAnna wears a painted-on red vinyl shirt. I twitch as she gulps my hair gel, bites my nose, finally puts my hand in her crotch. The recreation feels good. Verdict: Sexy, but not meeting Mom.

Sarah, 4:45 p.m. I lift my chest and legs like some kind of Indian contortionist, as flexible women do yoga around me. Every four minutes Sarah corrects me, barking, “Open your larynx!” I tell her she’s driving me nuts. Still, she invites me over for a soy-ginseng shake after class. Verdict: Ick!

Day 23
Katie (again), 6:23 p.m. Am not supposed to go on any second dates for this story; this is my fourth with Katie. (So shoot me.) We’re in bed when she asks what I want. I respond: “What do you want?” Says she knows what she wants (meaning sex); she just wants respect with it. I feel awful. She’s made me baked ziti, we’re drinking her champagne, and I’m omitting the bit about the 40 trillion dates I’m going on. I leave abruptly. She is so sweet and honest I cannot bear to lie to her another second. Verdict: The one that got away.

Day 24
Lidya, 12:30 p.m. She has pillowy pink lips, but there is a little black hair hanging out of her left nostril. By the time my chicken sandwich arrives, I can’t eat. Verdict: Grooming counts.

Jennifer, 9:15 p.m. Jennifer dominates the conversation, using words like fab and delish, as in, “Oh my God, this salmon is just so delish!” Verdict: Cutesy catchwords = turnoff.

Days 25-26
Nothing’s clicking. Lisa is a 27-year-old salsa dancer with a curfew from her parents (please!). Rose wants to be a belly dancer, but her belly is big, pale and gross. Jessica is my sister’s friend, but I think she’s spying so Sis can find out how I treat women and blab back to Mom. Roberta has a great smile (big plus — girls don’t smile enough on first dates), but really not much else.

Day 27
Alice, 1:13 p.m. Alice chooses the best sushi place I’ve been to, and has every au courant accessory perfectly matched. She’s like Virgin Records: aggressively hip, which is off-putting. Too cool is annoying. Verdict: Madonna Lite.

Claire, 8:46 p.m. Deafeningly loud bar. I’ve known Claire for two years and have always had a crush on her because, like most guys, I always want what I can’t have, and Claire has made it clear I can’t have her. She has to meet friends for a movie; I hope she’ll ask me to join. She doesn’t. Verdict: Can’t have it if you want it too much.

Day 28
Anne, 6 p.m. She is a zoo worker who whistles for stray dogs to join us at our street side table. Homeless pets are not romantic. Verdict: All bark, no bite.

Day 29
Olivia, 1:50 p.m. Olivia is reading Ayn Rand when I walk into the coffee bar. Women who use a dating service will do anything; they’re just happy to be out. Verdict: Sad.

Day 30
Jill, 8:02 p.m. Jill is the kind of California hottie every man wants to have once. It’s perfectly choreographed: hip theater, tasty drinks, dancing, grinding, kissing. At an after-hours club, she invites me to see her apartment. She has every cool CD, from Air to Wyclef Jean, and books by Nick Hornby and F. Scott Fitzgerald, but it seems artificial, as if she’s decorated it to make herself appear more sophisticated. Verdict: Who cares? Lights out.

Your sex answers: Are your sex drives in sync?

admin — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 20:29:26 +0000

In December we asked readers whether they ever clashed with a partner over how often to make love. What’s clear from the letters we received: When one person wants more sex than the other, both partners feel frustrated. Here’s what irks women — and how they cope.

WHEN HE WANTS MORE
“My husband’s libido is always in overdrive. I need to unwind after work, but when he comes home he immediately puts his hands all over me. He doesn’t even ask about my day!”

Sex answers, sex drives:

“Knowing that my boyfriend is keeping track of the number of times we have sex really turns me off! Lately, making love has almost become a job rather than the pleasure it was before he informed me exactly how often he expected it.”

WHEN SHE WANTS MORE
“He’s fine with just cuddling. That’s OK sometimes, but I prefer action.”

Sex answers, sex drives:

“I thought I’d married a matching sex partner, but after we had our daughter, our frequency dropped from four times a week to once every two weeks. My husband finally admitted that he couldn’t get past the extra pounds I’d put on after the baby.”

HOW COUPLES COMPROMISE
“I bide my time — or else I take care of myself, which is better than finding someone new.”

“If he says no, I’ll slip an erotic video into the VCR. Soon, he’s begging for it.”

Readers who were most satisfied with their sex lives agreed with one mother of three who found: “Sex tends to beget sex — the more you have, the more you want.”